My 5-Year Hair Loss and Hair Gain Journey (and What I’d Tell Anyone Going Through It)

Quick Disclaimer: I’m not a medical professional. This is my personal experience. Please see a dermatologist for personalized advice—most insurance plans will cover hair loss visits.

How It Started

In 2020, I noticed my hair shedding like crazy—maybe from the stress of that year, maybe from body changes I didn’t understand.
I booked a dermatologist appointment. Blood work, a scalp sample, and a prescription later, I had my diagnosis: female pattern baldness. My follicles were weak, so while I could grow hair, it just wouldn’t stay put.

The $3,000 Mistake

In 2021, I tried laser treatments. They worked a little, but you need 12+ sessions to see great results. I paid $3,000 for only 4 sessions—hard pass. Then in 2022, COVID knocked out any progress I’d made.

Back to the Basics

I went back to my oral Minoxidil and Spironolactone. I was exercising 5x a week, eating well, and feeling good. Then fall 2022 happened—stress came back, hair fell again. I stayed on my meds, moved my body when I could, and kept going.

The Bob Era

Fall 2023: I chopped my hair into a bob to focus on quality over length.
Spring 2024: Took a haircutting class with one of my favorite influencer stylists. The brand Milbon introduced me to their scalp care line—didn’t make my hair grow faster, but my scalp felt amazing and allowed my hair to grow stronger because I was nourishing the hairs from when it exits my scalp.

Where I’m At in 2025

My hair is long, healthy, and growing. The difference? I finally put in the consistent work. Emphasizing on consistent. With my medications and scalp care routine.

My Top Hair Growth Tips

  1. Hair loss is normal. Especially in men—don’t panic.

  2. Check your water. Some cities heavily depend on chlorine to clean the water enough to be safe for usage. With that some water can be really tough on hair. If you have well water the minerals that you deposit into your hair with every shampoo can be harmful.

  3. Start early. Oral Minoxidil or topical Rogaine can make a difference if you don’t wait out of embarrassment.

  4. Your follicles might just be sleeping. Meds can wake them, but dead follicles won’t grow hair.

  5. One step at a time. Start with meds, then add exercise/diet changes. Don’t overwhelm yourself.

  6. Be patient. I’ve been working on this for 5 years.

  7. Manage stress. Your hair feels it, too.

  8. Consider a hair transplant. On my bucket list before 40.

Scalp Care

Healthy hair starts with a clean scalp.
Especially for my Asian and/or dark-haired friends: wash your hair more often. The “no wash for a week” myth? Gross. If you need to wash daily, do it.

My go-tos:
Milbon Gold Enhancing Vivacity Effervescence
Milbon Enhancing Vivacity Essence
I’m going to add that i use a Jolie shower head filter for my shower so i can make sure that the water cleaning my hair is the most top tier for my hair journey.
These + my meds have finally gotten me compliments on my hair (first time in my life!).

Medications I’ve Used

Talk to your doctor before starting anything.

  • Minoxidil – Active ingredient in Rogaine; oral or topical.

  • Finasteride – Haven’t tried yet, but plan to ask about it.

  • Spironolactone – Heart med that helps regulate stress hormones; reduces shedding. Not pregnancy-safe.

  • Vitamin D – Common deficiency in Minnesota; helps with hair health.

Lifestyle Matters

  • Sleep – Crucial for recovery and growth.

  • Diet – Too much caffeine and sugar will hurt your progress.

  • Exercise – Great, but prioritize rest first.

Hair growth isn’t quick—it’s a slow, steady investment. Start with one change, stick with it, and build from there.
If you do nothing else? Care for your scalp, manage your stress, and don’t wait to start.


left image is May 2022 after covid i lost my hair again. image on the right 08/15/2025 the most recent look at my hair growth.

 
 

new year, new habits

 

One of the ways I’ve been distracting myself this first quarter is by participating in a "New Year, New Me" challenge hosted by the influencer @kailawenn on Instagram. I wanted to create new habits to carry into the new year.

Here are a few routines I’ve been working on:
- Move at your own pace: 30 minutes a day, whether it’s walking, running, stretching, meditating, or any other movement. If 30 minutes feels like too much, promise yourself at least 10 minutes.
- The Everything Shower: This was new for me, but I really love it. It's all about taking the time for the things we often skip—like dry brushing, exfoliating, shaving, hair treatments, and foot pumicing.
- Sleep-time routine: I make sure to drink 8 oz of water or tea, brush my teeth, remove my contacts, wash my face, turn on my heat pad for my lower back (getting old), and use a steam eye mask.

These routines have helped me slow things down and truly dedicate time to myself. I know the world can feel fast-paced, but I’ve decided that in the areas where I have control, I want to honor my body and the time I’ve been given.

I know it’s easy to focus on what we can’t do, but have you thought about what you can?
Enjoy yourselves until we meet again.

pang


 

micro-needling

 

before you read, please know that i am writing this in “Pang Words” which is my interpretation of the procedure so i can understand it better. if you want more information please contact Vanessa, my aesthetic esthetician or reach out to a professional who specializes in this field.

let’s go!
through out the blog, i’m going to refer to it as a procedure because it is more invasive than a regular facial. the esthetician is certified and licensed to use the tools. and there can be blood depending on intensity agreed upon during the consultation. also the after care is no joke, you want to heal the wounded skin correctly, thus it is a serious service to me.

what is microneedling? it’s an aesthetic procedure to create a superficial (shallow non invasive) wound on top layer of skin to alert the skin to boost the collagen reproduction, product better texture and boost skins natural glow. This procedure isnt for every skin type, so i would book a consultation before booking the service to make sure you are booking the correct service. 

who is a great candidate? anyone who wants to repair skin texture and boost skin health must not have any current open wounds on face or neck at the time of the procedure

Healing time: 3-4 days for reduced redness and 7 days for full skin recovery

cost: $350-$450+ per session depending on location 

How often do you have to do this procedure?  i was recommended 4 sessions to be completed within 4months. They have to be done every month to guarantee a beautiful final result

why i chose this procedure: i went to south korea and the aesthetic doctor there recommended the service to me because of my skin texture BUT it wouldn’t be affective just doing one session. i have to get a series of 4 done to see the best results. 

when you should book? i like to do my intense facials or procedures in the winter time because i can hide easily during the healing process and also make sure my healing skin isn’t exposed to direct UV light or sun.

Frequency of this service? For me i will probably do this once every 18-24 months. It is a financial investment and honestly i dont want to pay for it every year. So i will proceed with a year and a half to two years with this service.