My 5-Year Hair Loss and Hair Gain Journey (and What I’d Tell Anyone Going Through It)

Quick Disclaimer: I’m not a medical professional. This is my personal experience. Please see a dermatologist for personalized advice—most insurance plans will cover hair loss visits.

How It Started

In 2020, I noticed my hair shedding like crazy—maybe from the stress of that year, maybe from body changes I didn’t understand.
I booked a dermatologist appointment. Blood work, a scalp sample, and a prescription later, I had my diagnosis: female pattern baldness. My follicles were weak, so while I could grow hair, it just wouldn’t stay put.

The $3,000 Mistake

In 2021, I tried laser treatments. They worked a little, but you need 12+ sessions to see great results. I paid $3,000 for only 4 sessions—hard pass. Then in 2022, COVID knocked out any progress I’d made.

Back to the Basics

I went back to my oral Minoxidil and Spironolactone. I was exercising 5x a week, eating well, and feeling good. Then fall 2022 happened—stress came back, hair fell again. I stayed on my meds, moved my body when I could, and kept going.

The Bob Era

Fall 2023: I chopped my hair into a bob to focus on quality over length.
Spring 2024: Took a haircutting class with one of my favorite influencer stylists. The brand Milbon introduced me to their scalp care line—didn’t make my hair grow faster, but my scalp felt amazing and allowed my hair to grow stronger because I was nourishing the hairs from when it exits my scalp.

Where I’m At in 2025

My hair is long, healthy, and growing. The difference? I finally put in the consistent work. Emphasizing on consistent. With my medications and scalp care routine.

My Top Hair Growth Tips

  1. Hair loss is normal. Especially in men—don’t panic.

  2. Check your water. Some cities heavily depend on chlorine to clean the water enough to be safe for usage. With that some water can be really tough on hair. If you have well water the minerals that you deposit into your hair with every shampoo can be harmful.

  3. Start early. Oral Minoxidil or topical Rogaine can make a difference if you don’t wait out of embarrassment.

  4. Your follicles might just be sleeping. Meds can wake them, but dead follicles won’t grow hair.

  5. One step at a time. Start with meds, then add exercise/diet changes. Don’t overwhelm yourself.

  6. Be patient. I’ve been working on this for 5 years.

  7. Manage stress. Your hair feels it, too.

  8. Consider a hair transplant. On my bucket list before 40.

Scalp Care

Healthy hair starts with a clean scalp.
Especially for my Asian and/or dark-haired friends: wash your hair more often. The “no wash for a week” myth? Gross. If you need to wash daily, do it.

My go-tos:
Milbon Gold Enhancing Vivacity Effervescence
Milbon Enhancing Vivacity Essence
I’m going to add that i use a Jolie shower head filter for my shower so i can make sure that the water cleaning my hair is the most top tier for my hair journey.
These + my meds have finally gotten me compliments on my hair (first time in my life!).

Medications I’ve Used

Talk to your doctor before starting anything.

  • Minoxidil – Active ingredient in Rogaine; oral or topical.

  • Finasteride – Haven’t tried yet, but plan to ask about it.

  • Spironolactone – Heart med that helps regulate stress hormones; reduces shedding. Not pregnancy-safe.

  • Vitamin D – Common deficiency in Minnesota; helps with hair health.

Lifestyle Matters

  • Sleep – Crucial for recovery and growth.

  • Diet – Too much caffeine and sugar will hurt your progress.

  • Exercise – Great, but prioritize rest first.

Hair growth isn’t quick—it’s a slow, steady investment. Start with one change, stick with it, and build from there.
If you do nothing else? Care for your scalp, manage your stress, and don’t wait to start.


left image is May 2022 after covid i lost my hair again. image on the right 08/15/2025 the most recent look at my hair growth.

 
 

what to wear

 

Hello!

Wondering what to wear to your hair appointment? Choose comfortable clothes that won’t interfere with your stylist’s work. Opt for a loose-fitting top, avoid heavy jewelry, and consider wearing a button-up or something easy to take off. Ensure your outfit keeps you relaxed and stylish during your visit!
Below are a few clothing options I recommend to ensure you get the best possible result from your service. I want to make sure your haircut is symmetrical, your color looks amazing, and your clothing stays safe from any potential mess.
As you read the info below, you might be thinking, “Wow, she’s repeating herself a lot!” But believe it or not, in my 16 years of doing hair, this is something I find myself saying almost every day! So, whether you're a seasoned salon-goer or it’s your first time, here’s a little reminder (or heads-up) on what can make your experience smoother and stress-free.

T-shirt
A classic T-shirt is always my top recommendation for your hair service. It doesn’t matter if it's a V-neck, crew neck, boat neck, or U-shape—whatever you feel comfy in! A simple T-shirt works great because there's no collar to get in the way of your new hairstyle, and it won’t be at risk of getting damaged by color.

Crew Neck Sweatshirt/Jumper
If it’s chilly and you want to stay cozy during your appointment, a crew neck sweatshirt or jumper is a perfect choice! Again, no collar to interfere with your service.

Zip-up Hoodie (with an undershirt)
You might be surprised by how many people forget to wear an undershirt with their hoodie or zip-up, but please, do me a favor and throw one on! It helps me make sure I can get your haircut as precise as possible.

Looking forward to seeing you at your appointment!

Your favorite hairstylist
Pang


 

4 Ways to Keep Your Hair Healthy:

Cut Your Hair Regularly
Cutting your hair twice a year can help prevent damage caused by ponytails, claw clips, and even moments when your hair gets tangled in a seatbelt or stuck in a zipper. Over time, your hair becomes stressed, which is normal, but it can lead to split ends, breakage, or even hair loss. Regular trims give your hair a fresh start, sealing split ends and preparing it for the next few months.

Hair Cutting Schedule:
Every 4-6 weeks: Maintain your current style.
Every 6-12 weeks: Maintain your style while being more budget-friendly.
Every 5-6 months: Allow your hair to grow longer while keeping it healthy.

Brush Your Hair
Leaving tangles and snarls in your hair can stress the strands, leading to breakage and weakened hair. A simple brushing routine, twice a day—once in the morning and once at night—will help keep your hair healthier and reduce the risk of damage.

Stop Sleeping with Wet Hair
Though I’m not a scientist, I’ve heard from many people who complain of oily hair or itchy scalps without any signs of dandruff. Often, the culprit is sleeping with wet hair. Your scalp nourishes your hair, and when it’s kept moist for extended periods, it doesn’t have the chance to breathe. This can weaken the hair, making it harder for it to grow long and shiny.

Take Your Vitamins
I’m not a medical professional, so it’s important to consult a doctor before adding any new vitamins to your routine. Personally, I take Vitamin D because I’ve noticed a significant improvement in my energy levels when I use it. As I have a Vitamin D deficiency, I need to supplement it to support my overall health. Vitamin D can also promote hair growth by helping follicles function properly. Additionally, I take a fish oil supplement to reduce scalp inflammation, which can damage hair follicles and contribute to hair loss. Omega-3s improve blood circulation to the scalp, providing hair follicles with the essential nutrients they need.

Hope this helps! 

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